UNDER MY SKIN!
In general, I'm a pretty easy-going person. I tend to see the glass half full and give people the benefit of the doubt. But there a few things that get my goat, rub me raw, and just plain stick in my craw. I get angry when people cut me off in traffic, when something sticky gets spilled, and when innocent children suffer abuse.
Honestly, I don't understand why people would want to cut me off. In fact, I take it downright personally. While it's not always easy to be Mr. Nice Guy, preferring the other driver, it's especially difficult to smile at the idiot who is mercilessly merging onto the highway, as though they were there first! This is a true test of my self-control.
If you want to test the strength of my last straw, just spill something sticky in my kitchen. To put me over the top, forget to clean it up! I have zero tolerance for this kind of offense. It not only affects me, it spreads as you take your next step, going where you go, leaving its nasty trail for everyone to step in. The clean up is endless.
Endless describes the ripple affect abuse has on innocent children, as well as generations to follow. From the robbery of all self-esteem, to the possibility of an inherited behavioral trait themselves, this injustice takes the cake. According to the scriptures though, I am allowed to get righteously angry about this. So much so, I am moved to pray for those who have no voice and no defense. My intercession to the Father can then become their silent cry when no one hears.
Whether my peeves are personal, spread to others, or affect upcoming generations, these all get under my skin. But I have come to realize that how I respond to these situations, whether internally or external, is really what's on the line. Still, abuse is unjust, sticky is unnecessary, and road rudeness is totally undeserving.
Question of the week...What three things grind your gut, blow your fuse or really cheese you off and why?
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things that tick me off
1. when people judge what someone says without thinking what type of personality the person saying it has.
i.e. sarcastic, serious etc...
2. when people wont tell you when something you have been doing makes them mad but instead simply treats you poorly.
3. this is sort of funny but one thing that really grinds my gut is when in a conversation people use logical fallacies to discredit a certain point.
well I hope this was not so that you can annoy us during class. :)
ps when people are condescending, especially when they are in the wrong and wont admit it.
My top three peeves today... tomorrow they may change... are similar to yours Chrissy. To make a mess and LEAVE IT grinds my teeth no end! Even a 5-year old is capable of getting the paper towels, mopping up the mess, getting the floor rag and some soap and actually cleaning up the mess. The lazy, inconsiderate, irresponsibility of someone older than 8 leaving a mess for others to walk in and clean up is, to me, the defining gesture of disrespect and misogyny toward other people... especially those who might be in a position to clean up said mess! To make it WORSE, those showing such disrespect often chide and denigrate those who clean and complain, and clean and complain calling US rude, disrespectful names and they STILL!!! WALK OFF OFFENDED that we expect them to be considerate and respectful!! Well, I am certainly standing on my soapbox now. :) Second would be injustice of any type. The injustice of segregation AND the injustice of Affirmative Action. The injustice of families unable to pay for basic needs because "you make TOO MUCH MONEY" and the injustice of paying for social favors for those who disrespect our laws and come here illegally. Injustice grows in obvious, hidden, open, secret insidious ways touching ALL of us. One injustice gives fungal growth to many more. Their evil mycelia spreading unseen! Third, i hate being ignored when it is my turn! Whether in line, sitting in a restaurant or driving, I am conscious of what is right and just who is next; NOT who's most likely to be your friend, be the squeaky wheel, or be the pushy-est! I have waited patiently. I do not "watch my watch" with grunts and moans. I wait for my fair turn. Those who presume to steal it from me often steal the peace of my day! They ARE NOT making friends and influencing people!!! :~
So here's my rant! :)
Patrice
Patrice, I think I ruffled your feathers, but you have made such good points! My favorite is the rant about waiting your turn... fairly. Consideration is so expensive these days and also so often ignored. I have also noticed that when you DO show patience in line and it IS noticed by others, it is REALLY appreciated, as though courtesy has become completely extinct!
Thomas,
The things you mentioned all seem to deal with the same thing... pride; not your pride, but the one who is ticking you off.Why is it that people think that by covering their ill behavior, they are moving up a notch. How quickly their own faults are forgotten along with the obvious log in their eye.
PS. I didn't have an ulterior motive, I promise! But now I know how to push your buttons - Ha!
1. REDUNDANCY: It comes in 3 ultra-grinding forms for me: 1.If I tell you something, and you ask me about it as if you weren't paying attention the first time I told you about it. 2. If you ask me the same question more than once - it just means you weren't paying attention to my answer or you're just talking to hear yourself talk. 3. Having to tell someone time and time, and over and over, again and again, to please do something in particular, or to not do something in particular.
2. NOT FOLLOWING THROUGH: There are two ends of the spectrum... If you say you're going to do something...do it, or don't say you're going to do it. If you turn on a light then walk out of the room, go back and turn off the light. HELLO?
3. IGNORANCE: People don't think before they speak and they just let anything fly out of their trap...it drives me nuts. Think about what you're going to say before you say it. If you don't know something for sure, why act like you do... and if you're wrong, just admit it!
Cathi,
I can almost hear you speak these beefs with the words coming through your grit teeth! I tend to agree with each one and would ask, is courtesy too much to ask? I hate talking to myself more that anyone! Granted, life is at a much faster pace but come on, people need to FOCUS a bit!
The Bible clearly says to "let your yes be yes, and your no be no." Sometimes it's painful to swear to your hurt. Being committed when you don't want to be (especially after something better comes along) shows true character :)
Three things that really grind my gears are
1. When people don't answer a direct question, but instead reply with an irrelevant statement. My dad does this to me far too much.
2. When people start drama for no reason other than to mess with other people and cause anger and frustration.
3. When people automatically assume their personal beliefs are absolute fact and that everyone who does not agree with said beliefs is wrong and that all others should lead their lives by said person's beliefs.
Walter,
Unnecessary drama? I think all drama is unnecessary except that which happens on some sort of stage with an audience. Isn't there scripture concerning this?
2 Corinthians 12:20
New King James Version (NKJV)
20 For I fear lest, when I come, I shall not find you such as I wish, and that I shall be found by you such as you do not wish; lest there be contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, backbitings, whisperings, conceits, tumults...
YIKES!
I hate it when...
1.I hate it when people stare at me for no reason, while I'm thinking what the heck, did i do something?
2. Also when someone thinks I did something and I didn't do anything but they yell at me anyways!
3. Here's a fist clincher- when someone gets stuff out and forgets to put it away!
Garrett,
Ok, on some of these, I KNOW you're talking about me...
I know I'm guilty of staring at you sometimes. I'm sorry but I'm usually just deep in thought and my eyes just happen to land on you.
As far as getting blamed for stuff you didn't do? Just put it towards the stuff you DID do and never got caught for and then we are even.
Concerning your third irk, I'm afraid you have inherited this one from me. My motto is and shall forever be, "I don't care what you do, just clean up after yourself!"
Cyberpsalmist
(Mom)
1. My biggest pet peeve is when someone intentionally acts stupid for attention.
2. When someone who makes plans to hang out or something like that and ditch you and your buddies for other people.
3. People who show disrespect to people who do not deserve it.
Emily,
I agree on all points. Who would think that acting stupid could get you attention anyway! If it's intentional, then it's repellent.
Ahh, the totem pole of popularity. There should be a law against getting dissed because someone or some opportunity became better after a commitment was made. It just hurts.
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